5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Serious

A Man’s Guide to Being Ready to be The One

Every single time you log on, it is likely that you will be bombarded with ads, quizzes, think pieces, and random social media rants about being a “real man.” Let’s be generous and say that 99% of them are pure bullshit. If you’re like me, your initial reaction is to shake your head and scroll past as quickly as possible, lest you find yourself trapped in yet another panderfest, designed to get retweets instead of results.

The issue most guys find with these type of writings, is that they define manhood strictly by what a man does for another person. They typically speak down to and about the men reading. They equate financial prosperity with character. They tend to assume that men are these ignorant, sex craved, sandwich goblins, who could not survive unless some saintly woman had mercy on his poor wretched soul, and drug him kicking and screaming out of his self-imposed hell of NBA2K and having only one wash cloth.

And then there’s the men who go out of their way to prove them right. *KaioKen Facepalm x10*

This article ain’t that. I (and many other men) are firmly of the conviction that if you are not right for yourself, you aren’t right for anyone else. I say this, fully recognizing the inspiration that love can bring to a person’s life. I have seen it in my own story. When I am in love, I am a much neater, organized, and even healthier person. However, even when I am in single man’s hell, I still work to improve myself, for the sake of being a better… myself. I generally live by this idea: Think of who you would be if you were the perfect you. How would you act? What habits would change? What strategies would you employ to navigate the issues you will undoubtably face in life? Got a picture of that person? Do whatever you can to be as close to that vision of you as possible.

Before we get to the questions, let’s set some ground rules. If you find yourself violating the rules, take a moment and get your ass back on track. This is not the time to coddle yourself and give wiggle room. We are going to ask tough questions of ourselves, and give uncomfortable answers.

Da Rules:

1. No Deflecting. It doesn’t matter what a woman does, what another man does, what anyone else did. This is about you, and you alone.
2. No Excuses. If your answer is not what you want it to be, GOOD. Knowing where you…